one day my teenage son walked into my bedroom, and stated,
oh geez, mom. this girl is planning on asking me to a dance. but the thing is, she’s not my type, not someone i want to go with. so i have this plan. when she asks me during class, or wherever we are, surrounded by a ton of people I will say yes!
yes? i wonder.
yes, yes. but then when we are somewhere else, when no one else is around i will tell her no.
no? i say a bit too loud.
yes, no. he claims.
i stare at him. i don’t get it.
mom, it’s like this. I don’t want her to feel embarrassed by me saying no in front of everyone (‘ah, how sweet’, i think) but, I don’t want to go with her, so i will tell her the truth afterwards.
it’s good, mom. it’s good.
you’d be a jerk! i say in defense of all girls being treating badly by dumb boys.
huh? no. no mom, no. he laughs. you see i have no idea when she might ask. she might even have it announced over the intercom, and you know, i want to look like a good guy, but then, well, i don’t want to go, so i will be nice about it when i tell her forget it. i’ll be kind. i’ll even smile, let her know it’s okay, that i am doing her a favor.
oh! my! god! i scream, even though my mother told me to never take God’s name in vain.
i try to explain how unreasonable, how jerky, how rude! his idea is.
it’ll be okay mom. trust me. she’ll be fine.
he saunters, nonchalantly out of my bedroom.
you’re a jerk! i yell after him, knowing he knows i’m a good mom, a responsible mom, and that sometimes words fly out without much effort.
i love you, too, mom, he shouts back.
not two minutes pass when he walks back into my room.
he’s laughing, jovially.
she just tweeted me, he begins. she straight out told me not to believe anything i’ve heard. she has no plans to ask me to the dance.
thank goodness, i say. so glad she won’t have to deal with your jerkiness, i add.
ah, mom, you’re funny.
funny or not, i realize that somewhere down the line, when teaching my son about being a good, honest person, and the importance of treating others with respect, he twisted it, most likely without intent, and assumed it was okay to do the wrong thing to make something right.